An Attempt To Date a Gemini Cancer
G.D.O'Bradovich III
August 11, 2015
PART THE FIRST-THE SUBJECT
Cancers are accurately described by their zodiac sign or glyph, the crab. They are slow to move when it comes to love and, like their namesake, they do not advance head on, but in a sideways manner. They have a not unreasonable fear of being hurt. The water signs recall all slights that have occurred to them. Whereas the rest of us remember it in our mind, and to a lesser extent our heart, the water signs will "feel it" again. One must tread carefully in this regard.
Cancers are cautious in love and money. Money and love are forms of security. The thought of "I'm down to my last $3,000" will send them into panic mode. Because Cancers are emotional, family is very important. The feeling of security, financial and emotional, comes from their childhood and upbringing. I presume the child had parents that gave support to their Cancer child. This is not always known. Cancers rule the home, so as adults, we expect them to feel comfortable there. If they do not feel safe there, they will develop stomach problems- Cancers rule the stomach.
Cancers will not tell people of any events or information that they feel the other party will not react in a positive manner. I do not know if this behavior will change. After one has several dozen experiences of this behavior, one will be able to recognize it. However, this is not half the battle. By Nature, one may confront this reticence head on. At times this may "force" the Cancer to talk. More likely, the Cancer will crawl into his shell and become more intractable.
The Gemini side will use all the tricks of the "used car salesman of the Zodiac" to prevent the Cancer side from being hurt. This will work for the vast majority of people. However, Great Occultists see through the sham bravado, the redirection, the confusion of the issue or the answer. However, the unsuspecting person thinks the question was answered when, in fact, it was not. The Gemini side enjoys learning and can be insightful and a talker, when, and if, the Cancer side feels safe. It is not enough for the Cancer side to feel comfortable, he must feel safe. The gulf between comfortable and is safe is larger than between knowing and having an opinion. Good luck and patience are needed for those who attempt to close this gap. Success is never assured. Gemini is an air sign, so it must be engaged in intellectual or thought provoking discussions. They tend not have libraries, as this distracts from engaging people in conversation. Gemini influenced people will have a range of interests, so there is no need to be concerning about topics to discuss. If one is fortunate, after several years, the Cancer will reveal interests that one did not suspect they have a passion for.
The Gemini is good with finances due to his Mercurial Nature. Because of the their dual nature, Gemini Cancers will realize the value of items and not hoard everything that is was touched by someone they once knew decades ago. Cancers who are affected by other astrological influences will have an hour dedicated to them on A&E, "Hoarders".
It is best to acknowledge past failures in relationships once, and not bring this matter to light again. The last thing one wants is a permanently moody and morose Cancer. Cancers, being ruled by the Moon, are moody by nature. This can not change. However, if they are in a "funk" this will pass in about two hours, as this is the time it takes for the moon to move into another sign. If one is not prepared to endure this ever changing tide of feeling, one should not attempt to date a Cancer. They enjoy water of all kinds. Outdoor swimming and wading will do wonders for them. Adult Cancers will own large bath tubs, hot tubs or swimming pools. The successful Gemini influence will assure the acquisition of all three, plus a summer house on the beach.
Unfortunately, one can not tell a Cancer Gemini what to do. This will be a failure and, in the long term, unproductive to any relationship. They have a mind of their own, or four, depending on how one counts. The most one can do is state explicitly that one is there for them and their emotional support. Do not be fooled into thinking that they want other people to be as timid as they seem to appear. One can imply and hint and not be forthcoming about everything else to the Gemini Cancer (they will recognize these), but one must state one's support for them unequivocally. This is not to be done daily, but only when the Cancer Gemini feels the need for it. This is hit or miss advice, as there is no fool proof formula for using it. If there are two rivals for the Gemini Cancer's affection, the Cancer will feel safer with the one who not only states their support, but acts upon it. The Gemini side will agree with this conclusion.
Cancers are cautious in love and money. Money and love are forms of security. The thought of "I'm down to my last $3,000" will send them into panic mode. Because Cancers are emotional, family is very important. The feeling of security, financial and emotional, comes from their childhood and upbringing. I presume the child had parents that gave support to their Cancer child. This is not always known. Cancers rule the home, so as adults, we expect them to feel comfortable there. If they do not feel safe there, they will develop stomach problems- Cancers rule the stomach.
Cancers will not tell people of any events or information that they feel the other party will not react in a positive manner. I do not know if this behavior will change. After one has several dozen experiences of this behavior, one will be able to recognize it. However, this is not half the battle. By Nature, one may confront this reticence head on. At times this may "force" the Cancer to talk. More likely, the Cancer will crawl into his shell and become more intractable.
The Gemini side will use all the tricks of the "used car salesman of the Zodiac" to prevent the Cancer side from being hurt. This will work for the vast majority of people. However, Great Occultists see through the sham bravado, the redirection, the confusion of the issue or the answer. However, the unsuspecting person thinks the question was answered when, in fact, it was not. The Gemini side enjoys learning and can be insightful and a talker, when, and if, the Cancer side feels safe. It is not enough for the Cancer side to feel comfortable, he must feel safe. The gulf between comfortable and is safe is larger than between knowing and having an opinion. Good luck and patience are needed for those who attempt to close this gap. Success is never assured. Gemini is an air sign, so it must be engaged in intellectual or thought provoking discussions. They tend not have libraries, as this distracts from engaging people in conversation. Gemini influenced people will have a range of interests, so there is no need to be concerning about topics to discuss. If one is fortunate, after several years, the Cancer will reveal interests that one did not suspect they have a passion for.
The Gemini is good with finances due to his Mercurial Nature. Because of the their dual nature, Gemini Cancers will realize the value of items and not hoard everything that is was touched by someone they once knew decades ago. Cancers who are affected by other astrological influences will have an hour dedicated to them on A&E, "Hoarders".
It is best to acknowledge past failures in relationships once, and not bring this matter to light again. The last thing one wants is a permanently moody and morose Cancer. Cancers, being ruled by the Moon, are moody by nature. This can not change. However, if they are in a "funk" this will pass in about two hours, as this is the time it takes for the moon to move into another sign. If one is not prepared to endure this ever changing tide of feeling, one should not attempt to date a Cancer. They enjoy water of all kinds. Outdoor swimming and wading will do wonders for them. Adult Cancers will own large bath tubs, hot tubs or swimming pools. The successful Gemini influence will assure the acquisition of all three, plus a summer house on the beach.
Unfortunately, one can not tell a Cancer Gemini what to do. This will be a failure and, in the long term, unproductive to any relationship. They have a mind of their own, or four, depending on how one counts. The most one can do is state explicitly that one is there for them and their emotional support. Do not be fooled into thinking that they want other people to be as timid as they seem to appear. One can imply and hint and not be forthcoming about everything else to the Gemini Cancer (they will recognize these), but one must state one's support for them unequivocally. This is not to be done daily, but only when the Cancer Gemini feels the need for it. This is hit or miss advice, as there is no fool proof formula for using it. If there are two rivals for the Gemini Cancer's affection, the Cancer will feel safer with the one who not only states their support, but acts upon it. The Gemini side will agree with this conclusion.
PART THE SECOND-VIABLE CANDIDATES
If the Cancer Gemini were a Cancer proper, I would suggest finding a nice water sign for a relationship. The emotional ups and downs of a Pisces or a Scorpio would mesh well with a Cancer. Unfortunately, the influence of Gemini will not allow a successful relationship with another water sign. Therefore, we must search for a compatible earth sign to "ground" the Cancer Gemini.
Due to the influence of the cusp in our subject, we will limit our potential candidates to earth signs and review both cusps. Since the Moon only rules Cancer, we can not use the ruling planet to find a compatible partner.
The ruling planet of Virgo is Mercury and this would go well with the Gemini influence of our subject. The cusp with Leo would be very compatible with the Gemini influence. However, the tendency of Leos to be overpowering, due to their solar influence, does not compliment the Cancer influence. The other cusp of Virgo is Libra and this would be a nice partnership with Gemini. Unfortunately, the inability to make a timely decision will ultimately irritate the quick minded Gemini. Therefore, Virgo is not a suitable candidate for our subject.
Taurus is the fixed earth sign and would provide stability to our subject. Unfortunately, their intractable nature would, later than sooner, wear the Cancer out emotionally. A candidate on the cusp of Aries and Taurus would provide the fiery nature that the Gemini influence would find attractive and exciting. In the long run, their all too self centeredness would prove untenable for a relationship. A candidate on the cusp with Gemini would provide an initial spark to the relationship due to same attributes, but all astrologers know, same signs do not work out together. There is one exception to this rule-Virgo.
By the process of elimination we come to Capricorn. Capricorn is depicted as the front part of a goat and the hind quarters of a fish. Capricorn's emotional state is covered by the gruff goat, but it is present. Capricorn rules life outside the home and this is traditionally understood as business. Therefore, our candidate can supply both the emotional support (earth sign and part fish) and financial support (earth sign and knows the value of money) The airy cusp of Aquarius is compatible with Gemini. Unfortunately, Aquarians are not traditional thinkers and their unconventionality will wear out its welcome. The fiery cusp of Sagittarius is compatible with the airy Gemini influence of our subject. Sagittarius rules religion and philosophy. These subject and other varied interests will keep the Gemini influence engaged for many years.
Due to the influence of the cusp in our subject, we will limit our potential candidates to earth signs and review both cusps. Since the Moon only rules Cancer, we can not use the ruling planet to find a compatible partner.
The ruling planet of Virgo is Mercury and this would go well with the Gemini influence of our subject. The cusp with Leo would be very compatible with the Gemini influence. However, the tendency of Leos to be overpowering, due to their solar influence, does not compliment the Cancer influence. The other cusp of Virgo is Libra and this would be a nice partnership with Gemini. Unfortunately, the inability to make a timely decision will ultimately irritate the quick minded Gemini. Therefore, Virgo is not a suitable candidate for our subject.
Taurus is the fixed earth sign and would provide stability to our subject. Unfortunately, their intractable nature would, later than sooner, wear the Cancer out emotionally. A candidate on the cusp of Aries and Taurus would provide the fiery nature that the Gemini influence would find attractive and exciting. In the long run, their all too self centeredness would prove untenable for a relationship. A candidate on the cusp with Gemini would provide an initial spark to the relationship due to same attributes, but all astrologers know, same signs do not work out together. There is one exception to this rule-Virgo.
By the process of elimination we come to Capricorn. Capricorn is depicted as the front part of a goat and the hind quarters of a fish. Capricorn's emotional state is covered by the gruff goat, but it is present. Capricorn rules life outside the home and this is traditionally understood as business. Therefore, our candidate can supply both the emotional support (earth sign and part fish) and financial support (earth sign and knows the value of money) The airy cusp of Aquarius is compatible with Gemini. Unfortunately, Aquarians are not traditional thinkers and their unconventionality will wear out its welcome. The fiery cusp of Sagittarius is compatible with the airy Gemini influence of our subject. Sagittarius rules religion and philosophy. These subject and other varied interests will keep the Gemini influence engaged for many years.
PART THE THIRD-CONCLUSION AND PORTENTS FOR THE FUTURE
Since I am not an adherent or proponent of psychic or spiritual ideas, the initial attraction to a Cancer Gemini must be, by default, physical. In one sense, they are my opposite, summer compared to winter. If only one aspect of Astrology is valid, then I would state that the physical characteristics of the subject are surprisingly consistent from one individual to the next. They are pleasing to the eye, like a Venus influenced person, however, they do not exhibit the height that one expects of an an air sign (Libra) or the stature of an earth sign (Taurus). As of this writing, I am not certain when I became aware of my attraction to Gemini Cancers.
Of course, I notice fellow Capricorns and I suppose the reactions, behaviors or demeanor of Cancer Geminis are similar to Capricorns in social and employment settings. Evidently, I recognize Capricorns’ mannerism on a subconscious level-as I “know” that I like them before I engage them. I propose that Gemini Cancers and Capricorns in work settings demonstrate or manifest similar traits-purpose and drive. Sometimes, what we lack in physical ability is compensated by the will to power. The Cancer Gemini and the Capricorn as the manifestation of the will to power-the recognition of the same values-love; that plastic and ill defined word in our modern age, that in the hands of a philologist becomes tangible, or at least understandable-the acknowledgment of the highest virtues. Virtue-the will to power- success, humor, wit, reason-what are these, but the embodiment of love? The explicit recognition of the highest virtues? The other virtues-sarcasm, irony, quick witted, steadfast- are acknowledged and appreciated, but they are not the highest virtues-love-the bane of the young Capricorn who lacks the words and experiences to understand feelings, not his feeling, but feelings as experienced by the emotionally driven.
If we are initially beguiled into believing that the attraction to our subject is physical, we risk not being able to separate the physical from the values embodied in the Gemini Cancer. As astrology recognizes, quality, not quantity, is the touchstone of the Capricorn and I suggest that it is a rare moment for Capricorns to be intimate with anyone who does not possess at least one esteemed virtue. Of course, the more virtues, the easier the intimacy, that is, the more likely that the Capricorn can be comfortable. Therefore, we propose that for the Capricorn who does not arbitrarily separate the rational from the physical, one can only be intimate with those individuals who also possess these qualities or highest virtues. If our hypothetical Capricorn is reticent regarding these proposed behaviors, then our Gemini Cancer will never outwardly acknowledge them, and this silence is understood by the Capricorn. Such is the Cancer’s need for security: what happens in intimate settings will never be shouted from rooftops nor mentioned. If the happy Capricorn can not be described, then any attempt to describe a content Cancer Gemini will also defy description. Those shared moments will not be recounted, and in the fullness of time, will be forgotten. The modern idea that momentary happiness should be broadcast to the world is a philosophy not shared by either the Capricorn or Gemini Cancer. By its selective nature, such encounters and feelings can not be shared, as we know the appearance of public happiness tyrannizes over the truth of personal misery.
By nature, the Capricorn is not overtly protective -no adult goat would behave in that manner towards another adult goat- but where the sensitive Cancer Gemini is concerned, I propose that the Capricorn will manifest never before seen behavior to to protect the Gemini Cancer, not only from rare physical harm, but the commonplace mental or emotional injury. Whereas when the fire and air signs becomes defensive, few observers will think it is much beyond their natural bravado, however when the sedate Capricorn reacts to protect the Cancer Gemini, I can assure the Gentle Reader that heads will turn, if only because it is removed from their typical behavior, but not beyond their reasoning to do so. The appearance of bellicose posturing from a sea goat is only posturing insofar as the opponent does not abdicate or flee. Not only will the Capricorn endure physical pain to protect the Gemini Cancer, he will also endure mental anguish, not that torment is an alien feeling for the Saturn influenced Capricorn.
Since the rational Capricorn will not use guilt or fear to motivate anyone in a work setting, we will not expect him to use these questionable tactics to manipulate a Cancer Gemini into a relationship. There are no hostile takeovers or corporate raiders of a Cancer, only mergers, and then only after long negotiations, sometimes years of negotiations. The Capricorn will be willing to endure lengthy consultations, provided that his time is being used effectively. As businessman, the Capricorn knows that partnerships must be based on consent; no consent, no relationship, nor does he have the unreal expectations that all ventures will be successful. Relationships as a law firm; only the Capricorn would understand intimate associations in such a manner, and only a Cancer would feel comfortable with the results, but Cancers would not feel comfortable with knowing that Capricorns have an unorthodox worldview of personal relationships. [To the inexperienced Capricorns: Do NOT tell the Cancer that you best understand the relationship as a legal construct, although your reasoning is eminently practical, it is not necessarily the most romantic statement one can make.]
Of course, the world weary Capricorn does not expect relationships, anymore than he expects prolonged happiness. Due to the vagaries of our world, the fortunate accidents of chance bring together those who value one another for their best virtues and for their lesser virtues. If our hypothetical pair can not be together, in the sense of public acknowledgement of their relationship, then they will be secure in the knowledge that the mutual feelings, which are predicated upon reason and not emotion, will endure. For those who value quality, we esteem such relationships, even if we never meet again-the vagaries of our world.
We will conclude our series with:
Of course, I notice fellow Capricorns and I suppose the reactions, behaviors or demeanor of Cancer Geminis are similar to Capricorns in social and employment settings. Evidently, I recognize Capricorns’ mannerism on a subconscious level-as I “know” that I like them before I engage them. I propose that Gemini Cancers and Capricorns in work settings demonstrate or manifest similar traits-purpose and drive. Sometimes, what we lack in physical ability is compensated by the will to power. The Cancer Gemini and the Capricorn as the manifestation of the will to power-the recognition of the same values-love; that plastic and ill defined word in our modern age, that in the hands of a philologist becomes tangible, or at least understandable-the acknowledgment of the highest virtues. Virtue-the will to power- success, humor, wit, reason-what are these, but the embodiment of love? The explicit recognition of the highest virtues? The other virtues-sarcasm, irony, quick witted, steadfast- are acknowledged and appreciated, but they are not the highest virtues-love-the bane of the young Capricorn who lacks the words and experiences to understand feelings, not his feeling, but feelings as experienced by the emotionally driven.
If we are initially beguiled into believing that the attraction to our subject is physical, we risk not being able to separate the physical from the values embodied in the Gemini Cancer. As astrology recognizes, quality, not quantity, is the touchstone of the Capricorn and I suggest that it is a rare moment for Capricorns to be intimate with anyone who does not possess at least one esteemed virtue. Of course, the more virtues, the easier the intimacy, that is, the more likely that the Capricorn can be comfortable. Therefore, we propose that for the Capricorn who does not arbitrarily separate the rational from the physical, one can only be intimate with those individuals who also possess these qualities or highest virtues. If our hypothetical Capricorn is reticent regarding these proposed behaviors, then our Gemini Cancer will never outwardly acknowledge them, and this silence is understood by the Capricorn. Such is the Cancer’s need for security: what happens in intimate settings will never be shouted from rooftops nor mentioned. If the happy Capricorn can not be described, then any attempt to describe a content Cancer Gemini will also defy description. Those shared moments will not be recounted, and in the fullness of time, will be forgotten. The modern idea that momentary happiness should be broadcast to the world is a philosophy not shared by either the Capricorn or Gemini Cancer. By its selective nature, such encounters and feelings can not be shared, as we know the appearance of public happiness tyrannizes over the truth of personal misery.
By nature, the Capricorn is not overtly protective -no adult goat would behave in that manner towards another adult goat- but where the sensitive Cancer Gemini is concerned, I propose that the Capricorn will manifest never before seen behavior to to protect the Gemini Cancer, not only from rare physical harm, but the commonplace mental or emotional injury. Whereas when the fire and air signs becomes defensive, few observers will think it is much beyond their natural bravado, however when the sedate Capricorn reacts to protect the Cancer Gemini, I can assure the Gentle Reader that heads will turn, if only because it is removed from their typical behavior, but not beyond their reasoning to do so. The appearance of bellicose posturing from a sea goat is only posturing insofar as the opponent does not abdicate or flee. Not only will the Capricorn endure physical pain to protect the Gemini Cancer, he will also endure mental anguish, not that torment is an alien feeling for the Saturn influenced Capricorn.
Since the rational Capricorn will not use guilt or fear to motivate anyone in a work setting, we will not expect him to use these questionable tactics to manipulate a Cancer Gemini into a relationship. There are no hostile takeovers or corporate raiders of a Cancer, only mergers, and then only after long negotiations, sometimes years of negotiations. The Capricorn will be willing to endure lengthy consultations, provided that his time is being used effectively. As businessman, the Capricorn knows that partnerships must be based on consent; no consent, no relationship, nor does he have the unreal expectations that all ventures will be successful. Relationships as a law firm; only the Capricorn would understand intimate associations in such a manner, and only a Cancer would feel comfortable with the results, but Cancers would not feel comfortable with knowing that Capricorns have an unorthodox worldview of personal relationships. [To the inexperienced Capricorns: Do NOT tell the Cancer that you best understand the relationship as a legal construct, although your reasoning is eminently practical, it is not necessarily the most romantic statement one can make.]
Of course, the world weary Capricorn does not expect relationships, anymore than he expects prolonged happiness. Due to the vagaries of our world, the fortunate accidents of chance bring together those who value one another for their best virtues and for their lesser virtues. If our hypothetical pair can not be together, in the sense of public acknowledgement of their relationship, then they will be secure in the knowledge that the mutual feelings, which are predicated upon reason and not emotion, will endure. For those who value quality, we esteem such relationships, even if we never meet again-the vagaries of our world.
We will conclude our series with:
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