My parents behavior towards my grandmothers were so different that as a child I realized this, but in my naivety or lack of experience, but not knowledge, I was uncertain why this was true. My grandmothers were opposites in the sense of astrology. My paternal grandmother was born in the middle of Capricorn, and my maternal grandmother was born in the middle of Cancer. Of course, as a child I was not aware of this and I doubt at the time I could have grasped, without the aforementioned painful experiences, the significance of this fact.
Humans have the ability to worry about potential events and the reasonable consequences of those events. “Cancers worry” is not an accurate statement. At times, it seems that they can worry beyond the fourth dimension and attain the worry level of the fifth and six dimensions. Although this feat seems humanely impossible, this astonishment is a product of the reader’s lack of experience in dealing with Cancers. While “dealing with” is harsh, we find ourselves exhausted and exasperated by their continual worrying about endless possibilities that, as mere mortals, the rest of us have no concept of their thought patterns and resultant feelings of certain doom. I assume “doom”, since thoughts and feelings regarding dachshunds, butterflies and rainbows should result in a different worldview.
Gentle Reader, we have reached the moment of truth: knowledge versus experience, where our experience is neither pleasant nor enjoyable, but exhausting. This is not to say that we do not feel, nor understand the Cancer’s reasonable concerns, but as they are at times overwhelmed with their feelings, so too, are we at times, overwhelmed by their behavior. Therefore, in order to limit our discomfort, we find ourselves not telling our Cancers everything we know. I write “we find” since their was no forethought, no conscious decision to withhold information, but there comes a time during the relationship when we realize the dynamics have changed. We steadily reduce the number of topics that we deem to be of an acceptable nature, so as not to cause the Cancer unnecessary hardship, with the result that information only flows from one direction.
We know that all relationships change with time, but the change with our Cancer relationships is different, so different, in fact, that without recourse to personal experience, we will be rashly described by third parties as aloof or uncommunicative or distant.
In fine, there will only two courses of action. If our Cancer has no qualities or virtues that we admire, our interactions with them will diminish over time. Once again, this will not be a conscious decision, but at a definitive point, in a reflective moment, we will grasp that the relationship has paled when compared to its former vibrant self. However, if our subject has virtues or admirable qualities, the relationship will continue and, like Mister Crowley, we will endure to the end.